Learning how to trust God is tough, especially when your feelings are going haywire. Find out three lies we often believe that are often based on feelings, and how to start trusting God instead.
Your feelings are lying to you.
You feel like the world is flat, but it is round. You feel like you are standing still, but you’re spinning lightning fast into space.
How feelings lie to us as humans
In like manner, feelings about life can be deceiving. Being wrong feels the same as being right – until you know better.
It might feel okay to hurt someone because you’ve been hurt. It might feel okay to lie, depending on the situation. It’s easy to see how letting feelings run our life can quickly run it into the ground. Sadly, we see evidence of this every day in the news – people hurting other people because, to them, it feels right.
If you have no basis for what truth is, your entire life will be spent making decisions based on feelings.
But our feelings cannot be trusted by themselves. In fact, Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?”
If you don’t have a guidebook for life, how can you know what is true and what is not? It is much easier to not let your feelings guide you when you trust God and are spending time in His Word, the ultimate truth. “Sanctify them by the truth. Your Word is truth” (John 17:17).
Related post: How to Really Trust in the Lord with All Your Heart
It’s so easy to let the emotions we feel to become our reality, but we need to be careful! Satan can use them to discourage us or endanger us spiritually.
Instead, we must allow God’s Words to inform our feelings.
Examples of Feelings vs. Truth in Scripture
Let’s explore a few feelings we experience in life that are actually lies – and what God’s truth is to replace these lies.
“I’ll never get out of this mess. Things will never change.”
If you’re in the middle of a personal crisis – whether physical, mental, or emotional – it’s hard to imagine being on the other side of it. We tend to think based on how we are feeling in the moment, but God wants us to base our thoughts on His words.
God says we can do all things through His strength, that nothing is too hard for him, and that He has great plans for us. “Is anything too hard for the Lord?” (Genesis 18:14).
You never know the plans God has for you, or how He is working in your life! Keep on keeping on.
“I keep trying but nothing is working. There is no hope for me.”
Have you been there? That moment when you have tried so many methods to fix a problem and are out of solutions, with no end in sight to the suffering?
The writer of Lamentations was in a place of wanting to give up. He says, “My soul is bereft of peace; I have forgotten what happiness is.” The only thing he has to cling to is his hope in the Lord — but what a thing to cling to! He goes on to say,
But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, His mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. “The Lord is my portion” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in Him.”
We must choose to hope in the Lord even when we cannot see or fathom an answer to our problem.
When we have exhausted all the avenues we know of to fix our problem and come to the place where it’s hard to remember ever feeling good – trust God. He is there.
He is all-knowing and already has the problem worked out. He alone can provide the peace that passes understanding.
“I’m happy, so I must be doing the right thing. God wants me to be happy.”
True, God does want you to experience happiness. Jesus said, “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly” (John 10:10). But more than temporary happiness in this life, Jesus is interested in your eternal happiness.
If you’re a parent, you understand the concept of temporary vs. long term happiness perfectly . What’s more important to you – your child’s temporary happiness eating junk food every day, or their long term health and happiness by denying the cravings and eating healthy?
It’s the same with us and God. We may feel happy doing something in the moment, but if it’s gonna hurt us long term, God doesn’t want that. Measure your life against the pages of Scripture. Are you living in a way that promotes your eternal happiness?
Let’s look at an example of how feelings can deceive in the Bible, Matthew 7:21-24.
Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’
Jesus says that at the judgment, there will be people who feel like they are so close to Him – yet he does not know them. Why? Look at the next verse. He specifies those who will be on a firm foundation: “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”
Who will be safe eternally? Everyone who hears Gods words and does them. Trust God by obeying what He says – it’s that simple!
Take a moment to evaluate your life. Are you feeling stuck? Ignore it – God says He has great plans for you. Are you feeling hopeless? Remember, God promises to meet all your needs. Maybe you are the opposite – you feel happy, so you assume you are right with God. Spend time reading the Bible and make sure it’s actually true!
9 Scriptures On Managing Emotions
Although I’ve included several examples of common feelings which are lies many people struggle with, your feelings are unique to you. The encouraging thing is, no matter what your feelings are, there are Scriptures to address them.
Dive deep into the bible and find out what God says about what you’re struggling with! And, realize that God helps us manage our emotions through Scripture. Here are some encouraging verses to show this:
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
As an example of suffering and patience, brothers, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. Behold, we consider those blessed who remained steadfast. You have heard of the steadfastness of Job, and you have seen the purpose of the Lord, how the Lord is compassionate and merciful.
1 Peter 5:5-7
All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because,“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.
I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip— he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.
2 Thessalonians 2:15-17
So then, brothers and sisters, stand firm and hold fast to the teachings we passed on to you, whether by word of mouth or by letter. May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word.
My top tip for how to live for God, not your feelings?
Start a journal. This is my favorite way to process and understand my feelings and inform them with truth. For me, sometimes I don’t know what’s bothering me or what lies I’m believing until I write my feelings down.
Prayer journaling really helps me see the big picture and what to pray/study about. I always write down my prayers, as if I’m writing a letter to God. Alternatively, you could also write journal entries of your thoughts.
Read my ultimate guide to prayer journaling to learn the process step-by-step!
- This journal is perfect if you’re a free-spirited writer and just want blank pages on which you can freely express your feelings.
- This journal is great for those who want a more structured approach to a prayer journal. If you struggle to write down your feelings, this journal provides helpful prompts for you to do so.
Want a resource to encourage you as you learn how to trust God instead of your feelings?
If so, I know you’ll benefit from the “Woman After God” printable pack. It is the perfect resource for any woman who is chasing God.
With 20+ pages of resources, you’ll learn to study the Bible effectively, answer deep burning spiritual questions, dive deep into the realm of prayer, and be encouraged with inspirational Scripture art.
This printable pack includes the “What Should I Study?” guide, which holds your hand teaches you exactly how to create a study plan based on your questions. Also included is a real-life study example, so you can watch the process unfold step-by-step.
It also includes prayer resources that will spark your communication with God and keep your dialogue going throughout the day.
If you ever think, “I want to grow closer to God, but I have no idea where to start,” this printable pack will absolutely help.
When you live your life based on the Word of God instead of your feelings, “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32). You will trust God and be at peace despite your circumstances, because you know God’s got your back.
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Do you have any tips on how to trust God instead of your feelings?
This is a great post! Exactly perfect for today, for an unspeakably difficult time, for the suffocating feeling of total defeat with no end in site. But God. In this season I choose to believe what He says though my situation does not currently reflect the revelation of these promises. This choice to believe comes from obedience if not from a “feeling” that the obedience provides sufficient comfort yet. Even still Lord, help me in my struggle to take Yiu at Your Word.
Marie, I am so sorry you are in a season of suffering but so thankful for your faith. Keep trusting and studying His Word! Prayers and blessings to you.
Amen! This article and the comments are so inspirational! We may not and will not always understand why we go through tough times, especially those that are deep within our soul. But through it all, we must keep the faith, trust in His word, believe His promises, and know without doubt, that His plan is greater than ours. I am learning the value of patience as I anxiously receive the bounty of blessings that He has just for me! Blessings to all of you!
Thanks so much for your encouraging comments! I agree, it can be hard to keep the faith but so worth it! So many blessings await and God is so great! Blessings to you.
Yolanda Martinez says
Thank you so much for this. I was just having a really hard time and feeling hopeless. It’s true that He has always taken care of me, so why would He stop now? Plus I forgot that “the heart is deceitful above all things”. This really helped me remember that it’s going to be ok and honestly I think I didn’t find it by accident. 🙂 God bless you!
Yolanda, this made my day! I’m so glad God’s word encouraged you. Keep the faith sister!
feelings do lie and I found this out very clearly at the end of a romantic relationship. I am trusting in God to get me through and to be more insightful to his will and not what I want and feel. Thank you for this article.
Thank you Chris, I’m so glad you are trusting Him for the next step in your life! Thanks for reading!
Sean Klaus Innocent says
I am very excited and inspired
By three line of the post from you
Chris , because I am facing the same situation after 10 years of romantic relationship, but I am glad that nothing will change the good plan for Lord on us
God bless you!
Thank you for this post. I have been feeling a lot like I will never be happy but believing God has my best interests in mind. He knows what I need and what will help me to grow. He wants what is best for us ? and not to just find happiness in our circumstances but in trusting that He is in control and feeling safe in his love.
Absolutely, Kareen! He definitely has our best spiritual interest in mind. Glad you’re here and God bless!
I’m encouraged by this,yes feelings do lie a lot but God’s Word is our absolute in every situation..if I can only dive deeper and stay only in the Word!
I think I have lived most of my life being guided by my feeling and it’s been draining. I got to a point where I felt exhausted and so helpless until I felt like life was so unfair and difficult. At this point, I realized there must be another way out. I have been searching for answers and I am so excited that I’ve found this article. Thank you for sharing this. Olive
Wow Olive, I am so happy it helped you! I would say definitely listen to God’s guidance in the Bible and you’ll be amazed at how He directs your life for the good. I recommend worldbibleschool.org which offers free online bible studies to help with that ?
Wow! Just what I needed. Amen. Thank you.
Thanks be to God! Bless you!
Carla Walters says
Since I fall from grace, I lost my faith in God. Thank you Mary I am encouraged .
I am happy it helped you, Carla. Keep seeking Him!
I am also happy I came across this post. It was so insightful& encouraging, the fact that some times I get carried away by doubt. Thank you Mary.
So glad you found it helpful, Estella! God bless you!
Praise be to the name above all names, The name of our LORD Jesus Christ & His Love for us. I use that method as well, to talk & thank God for everything. Thank you so much for this ?❤️
Thank you! To God Be the glory!
Hi,I’m stuck and I’m hopeless. I needed this.Very encouraging! Thanks
So happy you found it helpful Saybah. May God Be with you and bless you!
After 15 years of marriage and our five children. I have finally decided to end my abusive marriage. I am still feeling guilty, scared of the unknown, second guessing if I should go back because I don’t want our children being exposed to having another woman in their lives and living in separate homes. I feel so broken and lost. I really need help on how to listen to God’s voice, how to seek him and how to know if I’m doing the right thing for my family. I have to say though, since my husband left the home it has been so peaceful and I’ve been able to rest.
Wow Maria, I’m so sorry you are going through this. Prayers for peace and comfort as you make this transition. God is with you every step of the way!
Yiga Moses says
Thanks for this encouraging note I will trust him in second of my life ?
Amazing are the works of God. I am in the middle of feeling just that–like I may never feel normal again, like our family may never feel normal again. I believe God guides us to the messages we need to hear. Thank you for publishing this post. It was exactly what I needed. May our Father continue to bless others through your posts!
Thank you for your kind words Janice – to God be the glory!
I have been in a loveless marriage to a functioning alcoholic for 17 years and haven’t been intimate in 10 is this Gods Plan I feel so hopeless but everyone tell pray for you husband things will work out have faith all I want to do is walk away and start over but a same time I want to do want god want me do the only thing that keeps me going is my faith
I am sorry you are in a tough situation Tracie. Praying for you now.
Thank you so much. This is really helful to me and eye opening. The desires of the flesh has been eating me up and l trust God can do all things and why not deliver me. May God fill you up daily for this great job you are doing.
Sonika Tirkey says
Thank you for this post. God bless you
Thank-you for the amazing blog, I am glad that I found this post, keep up the good work.
Thank you for reading!
How can I learn how to understand the Bible. So many of the words are confusing and I dont understand the meanings. Is there a way for me to learn what the meaning are more easily.
For a good foundation of Bible knowledge, I highly recommend the free Bible course from worldbibleschool.org
I have a question. What if I feel God is instructing me to do something? (The thing He instructs me to do lines up and agree with scripture) I might feel in my heart to stay away from a particular woman known to be the town’s gossiper. Should we disregard all feelings even if it lines up with God’s Word?
Mellounie Casipit says
Thanks for sharing this inspirational thoughts. I would love to share this article with the women’s group. May God continue to bless your ministry.
Amen! 🙏🏼 ❤️
Matthew Taylor says
I am 38 years old and my grandma and my councilor both say these fears of mine are one way or another having to do with my Asperger syndrome disability as well as I am autistic. I have been have at one time or another in this lifetime of mine had a feeling that I’m going to spend eternity in hell when I die and I pray those feelings were lying to me as well as those thoughts I’ve been having of hell and the devil are pretend thoughts!so I have been praying to God asking him to do whatever possible to help me best go to heaven instead of hell when I die so if anybody as well as God can please as soon as and as much as possible help me with this entire situation of mine I’d really appreciate it! Thank you very much!Many people think I’m a really nice person and nobody not even me knows what I might have done wrong to go to hell for!So every morning or nearly every morning I try talking to God and asking him to help me to do something to get me into heaven instead of hell but I don’t know whether or not I am doing a good job in asking him for help!So also if I can continue to get help as soon as and as much as possible for me to keep God in my life and keep the devil out of my life I’d really appreciate it! Thank whoever in particular very much!Before I’ve been having fearful thoughts of hell and the devil for 5-7 years that I for many years before 2016 had more spiritual Godlike thoughts and a lot less thoughts of hell and Satan than the thoughts I’ve been having these 7 years!So I can’t wait to get my thoughts back to the way they were before 2016!So please somebody continue to as soon as and as much as possible help me with this situation as well as pray with me regarding this situation! Thank you very much!Lately I find myself slowly getting better at redirecting my thoughts and moving them into better avenues so I’m hopeful to get even more better at it one of these days!
Hello! God definitely gives us clear instructions in the Bible on how to be saved so we don’t have to worry! Here’s a post on how to receive the gift of salvation. I pray it helps and gives you clarity! https://healthychristianhome.com/how-to-be-saved-according-to-the-bible/
Matthew Taylor says
I earlier tried sending a comment to you all but after I thought it went through to you all it said comment awaiting moderation whatever that meant so I left this website and then I went back to it and my comment disappeared which is frustrating so I will try sending another comment after this comment and say exactly what I said in my other comment in hopes that it will get through to you!
Matthew Taylor says
Thank You very much for sending me the link regarding my fear or hell and getting killed I really appreciate it!So we will both continue hoping and praying that your link works for that!I lost my 102 year old grandpa lost February and I currently have a 93 year old grandma still alive and It has been pretty hard for me to loose my grandpa and it’s hard for me to know that eventually i in a. Short while or in a long while will loose my grandma and the fears I had of hell and being killed that I had in prior to loosing my grandpa my loosing my grandpa and someday loosing my grandma may or may not be tying in with my fear of being killed and going to hell! I ask that you and possibly other people too along with me please continue to pray and ask God to help me with this hard time to have lost my grandpa and this hard time of me knowing I will someday loose my grandma! Thank you and whoever else very much!